Hi guys!!! In my last post I talked about women having standard and laying their requirement, most important I stated that making ur requirements known to a man should not give you license for you to run down your list of demands!!!
Men a job opportunity?? answer is..NO!!! This is a relationship Ladies and not a job where u are expecting to be paid!! But that doesn't mean he shouldn't take care of you. We should understand that while men appreciate it when women let them know up front what they require in a relationship, I believe women sometimes, needs to step back every once in while and let the man show you what his made of...you know ,prove that his worthy of your time. I mean its nice that you like your man to take you out at least twice a week,and that you expect a gift doing Valentine day, you expect him to buy you expensive gifts like iPhone on your birthday. But how exactly do you fine out how creative ,romantic, or giving a man is if you tip him on how to make you happy,without requiring him to figure some of this out on his own? Know this:if you tell a man you like expensive phone for birthday or designer's clothes and bags as gifts that's exactly what he will give u nothing less and most importantly nothing more. You will be happy at first, but give it few months into the relationship, he will stop doing what you told him you like because he feels he has already gotten what he wanted.
Many ladies however will think because he stopped, he has changed. Many will tell their close pals they don't know what happened "he used to do everything I liked" instead of telling him how you like IPhone rather tell him u like phones with good quality cameras because you enjoy taking selfies ,that you like your pictures bring Bright that's honest and also better you indirectly told him the type of phone you want, definitely he knows that any any phone with good and quality camera will be expensive unless he asked u to tell him the phone you prefer. Definitely if you let him buy the one in his mind, he will surprise u many men are like that. I have seen several cases where men gives expensive gifts to women without even them requesting or telling them.
If he doesn't show you that his willing to figure out how to put a smile on your face then you will be in the position to decide if his capable of giving you want you need and at least some of what you want.
Saturday, 17 June 2017
MEN A JOB OPPORTUNITY???
MEN RESPECT STANDARDS -LADIES GET SOME!
Men are very logical and simple being,if u tell them what u like and what u don't like,they would do anything they can to make sure they live up to your expectations, particularly if they are interested in forging a relationship with u.(note:be cautious of telling him everything u like when u first meet him;will tell u why in the next post)
But seriously, men are not programmed to figure out what you want if u do not tell them! They are quite happy to know up front, so they can decide if they are up for the challenge— not after three weeks into the relationship ,not two months after you guys have had sex,not four years after you two have said "I do"!!rather u should tell him while eating the shawama , meat pie ,barbecue, pizza or whatever he bought u while out on a date this is because u are giving him a road map on how to conduct himself especially "if" his interested in a relationship with u.
Understand that this is not a license for u to start running down your list of "I don't", " I can't". Tell a man wat u require without making it feel Like u are making a list of demands. U can tell him in a midst of conversation and try to shape your standards in soft language, it'll will be easier for him to act on and more importantly for him to understand. Imagine how he will feel if u say it rudely! Rather tell him in a pleasant way.
For example,instead of saying," if u are dating me and sleeping with other bitches am out!" Why not Say something like ,"I'm always faithful and honest with the man am dating and would like to be treated the same way". You have just told him that u require the man in ur life to be honest and faithful as well without shouting or pointing and talking to him rudely. Instead of saying "i can't date a man who doesn't know God" perhaps you can say something like "i Love going to church every sunday because i like to exercise my faith or I don't joke with Sunday service" in so doing, u have made it clear that you're God fearing woman who knows the lord and that u take ur faith seriously. Now, u have given him what u think is valuable information about the woman his interested in. most importantly, u have told him what your standards are,though u have disguised it in a more better and matured way.
Its very important ladies to have standards. to lay out your requirements for a man and convey the importance of those , you must most importantly find out what exactly your requirements are. most ladies don't really know how to and most importantly what they what in a relationship, many are confused and scared of the man not being interested any more, some out of Desperation of thinking they are getting old for marriage end up making mistakes they regret. Ladies! if he truly wants to be with u he will!!!